“No man is an island entire of itself; every man, is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.” John Donne “Isolation is inherently traumatizing.” Sue Johnson “Loneliness doth make cowards of us all.” John Bowlby Among the many…
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When Sex Is Just A Drug
“Those who come together in the night time and entwine in swaying delight perform a serious work and gather up sweetness, depth, and strength for the song of some poet that is to be, who will rise to speak of…
Learning to Love Yourself
“The act of self acceptance is the root of all things. I must agree to be the person who I am. Agree to have the qualifications which I have. Agree to live the with the limitations set for me. The…
Stop Kicking Your Own Ass
“Why hast thou smitten thine ass?” Numbers 22:32 Call this weird, but I like to do a warm up routine before my counseling sessions. Yes, I know I don’t really need to do it to sit in a chair all…
Resolute
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” Mary Oliver “Every entity persists in its state of being – at rest or moving uniformly straight forward – except insofar as it is…
Lust, Part 2: The Hangover
“Misogyny: from Greek misos ‘hatred’ + gunē ‘woman.‘ The hatred of woman.” Websters dictionary “No sooner had Amnon raped her than he hated her—an immense hatred. The hatred that he felt for her was greater than the love he’d…
Lust As I See It: Part 1
“That shy but driving curiosity we have about other human bodies will be with us all our lives… Lust of the eyes and of the flesh is only the perversion of a perfectly natural and healthy curiosity, healthy because it…
Calling a Marriage Truce
“We just had a World War III here in our kitchenWe both thought the meanest thingsAnd then we both said themWe shot at each other till we lost ammunition.” Sara Groves “If we could read the secret history of our…
You Do Well To Be Angry
“When Jesus saw her sobbing and the Jews with her sobbing, a deep anger welled up within him. He said, ‘Where did you put him?’ ‘Master, come and see,’ they said. Now Jesus wept.” John 11:33-35 (Message) “Go ahead and…
Time is a Terrible Healer
“Evil can be undone, but it cannot develop into good. Time does not heal it. The spell must be unwound bit by bit with backward mutters of dissevering power. Or else not.” C S Lewis “There are some things that…
It Is Another Woman
“You know the next commandment pretty well, too: ‘Don’t go to bed with another’s spouse.’ But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed.” Jesus Sex is never just about sex. Truer words were never spoken…
Who Told You That You Were Naked?
“I look up into the mirror…I want to see my eyes. I want to look beneath the surface of the pale green and see what’s inside of me, what’s within me, what I’m hiding. I start to look but I…
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