“At our deepest levels… we have become more passionate than reasonable.” Larry Crabb “Your love is better than wine.” Song of Solomon 1:2 “You’re my water, you’re my wine, You’re my whiskey from time to time.” Over the Rhine I…
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Resolution
A new year always marks a new beginning, a rare moment of looking forward, looking back, looking within. For a couple days – until we go back to work at least – the human community at large takes a collective…
Everybody’s Got a Hungry Heart
Lunch time on a normal day of counseling had me heading home for a bite to eat. This was a couple months ago. The menu was going to be whatever leftovers I could zap back to life in the microwave….
Book Review: The Last American Man
You will notice right away this book is not psychological self help. I read self help too, but find it often leaves me feeling just plain confused. Its sort of like watching a movie from the front row of a…
Restoring Broken Things
You may have noticed my unofficial sabbatical from doing any writing whatsoever for the last few months. I know. I’ve committed the chief of all blogging sins. So here’s the story. At the beginning of the summer, we purchased a…
Man vs. Life
“What does man gain by all his labor at which he toils under the sun?” Ecclesiastes 1:3“Ah, but a man’s reach should exceed his grasp, or what’s a heaven for?” Robert Browning With careful precision, a young toddler boy stacks…
The Art of Counseling
“How did you do that?” I exclaimed to my counselor, Peter, as we got up to end our session. About an hour ago, I walked into his office a mess inside, feeling like a ball of tangled kite string. And…
Our Love of Shame
“Their rulers dearly love shame.” Hosea 4:18 In college, I struggled with using pornography. It was an accessible, covert drug for me. I used it to cope with stress, depression, and pain. But it was not pornography alone that I…
Drink Your Masculinity
If you want to sell something forget the scantily clad blond bombshell draped over the car hood. Go right to the father hunger in every man. Show pictures of fathers doing things that seem masculine. And confident. Point out their…
Male Friendship
“This particular inexperience often left me puzzled over the habits of my sons and their friends, particularly their methods for satisfying a need for physical contact. Why, when more than two boys were together in my living room, did they…
The Wild Wonders
Golden Retriever oblivious to the world of menCocks his head trying to understand,How we have no fun as often as we can,And with a tail wag he darts off again,To find another stick and leave our world to mendAnd so…
The Human Hunger for Words
You may have noticed I now have an endorsements page on my website. Asking for those endorsements was quite a journey for me, more than I anticipated, putting me face to face with just how powerful words can be in…
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