The Sex Talk You Never Got

“I didn't realize how healing a book like this would be until I read it. This book brought me to tears--in a good way. This book is what the church needs. It cuts through the lies that have kept men trapped in addictions and compulsions while being walled off from real relationships, and points to a Jesus-centered picture of what authenticity, peace, and victory look like. Thank you, Sam.”

“At last. A kind, wise, and poetic guide to the complex and beautiful issue of our sexuality, and a path toward the wholeness every man longs for. I’m serious—this is the most important book on sexuality you will ever read.”

“Seldom am I stunned and moved to awe (and tears!) merely by reading a book. But Sam’s words took my breath away, not just once, but over and again. This is an exquisitely written and desperately needed book.”

“Sam brilliantly weaves the core realities of the human condition: desire, beauty, shame, trauma, and redemption into a perspective that will bring grief for what you missed and glory for who you are and who you could become.  As much as this is a phenomenal book on men’s sexuality, it is a way of thinking and being as to what it means to be truly human.”

"Sam Jolman is tender with the topic and nuanced in his care, envisioning a better story of sexuality for those who dare to believe in its possibility. A book written for men that encouraged and challenged the heart of this woman as well."

"In the Christian community, male sexuality is often viewed as something out-of-control, if not dangerous. Consequently, men are asked to manage or suppress their sexual desire, denuding themselves of the beauty and passion inherent in sex. The Sex Talk You Never Got offers a way out that encourages men to grapple with the complexities of their story and become an integrated and awe-filled lover. Sam has written a beautiful book and one I hope is read widely."