“You hear that Mr. Anderson? That is the sound of inevitability. It is the sound of your death. Goodbye, Mr. Anderson.” Agent Smith, The Matrix “Life has killed the dream in me.” Fontaine, Les Miserables I am writing this at…
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The Virtue of Follow Through
“Potential is good when you’re 15 years old. After that, you need to start doing something.” Chris Guillebeau “A longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12 Some moments change you forever. My senior year of college I sat…
How To Become Passionate About Anything
“A dream without suffering is little more than a fantasy. Risk involves bleeding.” Dan Allender Here is how I became passionate about counseling: I rented an office in downtown Colorado Springs for $290 a month. It was a quaint little…
How To Cry Like A Man
“Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage.” Brene Brown “Paul D would keep the rest where it belonged: in that tobacco tin buried in his chest where a red heart used to be. Its lid rusted shut.” Toni Morrison…
Why Facts Never Tell The Real Story
“Things are not all so comprehensible and utterable as people would mostly have us believe; most events are unutterable, consummating themselves in a sphere where word has never trod.” Rilke “If we don’t know how or what to pray, it…
Why Men Masturbate
“Masturbation is an attempt to make ritual contact with the penis… to connect with the lost maleness.” Joseph Nicolosi “Notice that the struggle with pornography or masturbation is most difficult when you are lonely, beat up, or longing for comfort…
How Do You Make Others Feel?
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou “We actually respond to one another’s energy more than to people’s exact words…
How to Become More Masculine
“Son’s don’t want their father’s ‘balls’; they want their hearts.” Terrance Real At 18 weeks pregnant, Amanda and I sat in the doctor’s office, hardly handling the hope that this might be the week we find out the gender of…
Being Lonely Does Make You Weak
“No man is an island entire of itself; every man, is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.” John Donne “Isolation is inherently traumatizing.” Sue Johnson “Loneliness doth make cowards of us all.” John Bowlby Among the many…
When Sex Is Just A Drug
“Those who come together in the night time and entwine in swaying delight perform a serious work and gather up sweetness, depth, and strength for the song of some poet that is to be, who will rise to speak of…
Learning to Love Yourself
“The act of self acceptance is the root of all things. I must agree to be the person who I am. Agree to have the qualifications which I have. Agree to live the with the limitations set for me. The…
Stop Kicking Your Own Ass
“Why hast thou smitten thine ass?” Numbers 22:32 Call this weird, but I like to do a warm up routine before my counseling sessions. Yes, I know I don’t really need to do it to sit in a chair all…
