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Christmas Is About The Stuff

“The Word became flesh and blood, and moved into the neighborhood.” John 1:14 “God looked over everything he had made; it was so good, so very good!” Genesis 1:31 “Everything is already yours as a gift.”  1 Corinthians 3:21 The…

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Guilt Is Easier Than Pain

A divorced man came to me recently to get his life back.  He was pretty beat up.  Let me state the obvious for us all: Divorce is brutal.  An end to a story that lovers never imagine would end.  I’ve…

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Man Pressure

“Our view of spiritual manhood has more to do with continuing to function in spite of difficulties than with successfully overcoming them.”  Larry Crabb, Don Hudson, Al Andrews My friend Mary Ellen stopped me in the hallway one day at…

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God’s Least (or Most) Endearing Quality

“God isn’t late with his promise as some measure lateness.” Apostle Peter “If I were God, or God’s West Coast Rep, I would have a much more organized and predictable system.” Anne Lamott “There is evil cast around us, but its…

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I Thought I Was Over This

“People tend to think of recollections as fading over time, but memories grow like manuscripts being revised. In remembering, we add and fill in—and the more often you remember something, the more you change it, by committing to memory your…

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Are You Listening To Your Body?

“Human persons are embodied actors rather than thinking things… We are the sorts of animals whose orientation to the world is shaped from the body up more than from the head down.” James K A Smith “Our body is the…

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Why Young Men Commit Mass Killings

“But in contemporary society, we have trouble talking about the obvious: the transition from boy to man is a risky endeavor, and there can be a lot of collateral damage.”  Erika Christakis, Time Magazine web article “Most men are dead…

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Fifty Shades of Grey: (This is Not a) Book Review

“Survivors of abuse often suffer from unarticulated compulsions to repeat the event in different ways in the midst of their every day life activities.  This compulsion can lead survivors to put themselves in situations similar to the initiating event, as…

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Have You Told That Story Yet?

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.”  Maya Angelou “You don’t get to make up most of your story. But you get to make peace with it.” Ann Voskamp My son Brandt has officially…

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What’s Your Revolution?

“Postmodern irony and cynicism has become an end in itself, a measure of hip sophistication and literary savvy. Few artists dare to try to talk about ways of working toward redeeming what’s wrong, because they’ll look sentimental and naive to…

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When We Are Lance

“Mental health is a commitment to reality at all costs.”  M. Scott Peck “We make ourselves real by telling the truth.” Thomas Merton “The truth will set you free.” Jesus Well, well, Old Lance Armstrong did it after all.  He…

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What Do We Attack Now?

“Evil loves trauma and drama.” Dan Allender “Our battle is not against flesh and blood.” Paul You know the story. You have read it, heard it over and over, probably countless times by now. Its the one we are all…

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