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Why We Love (Hate) Our Marriage Fights

“Better is open rebuke than hidden love.” Proverbs 27:5 “All fierce passions tangle in the knot of marriage.” Jane Clark Scharl We are neck deep in summer break here at Camp Jolman. My wife and I feel every bit like camp…

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How Ravi Happened

I wrote this last year, as a way to process the story of Ravi Zacharias. And even though Ravi has already long faded from the whir of the news cycle, I share it now with you because the story of…

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How Old Are You Really?

“You’re not the age you are. You’re all the ages you’ve ever been.” Fred Rogers “I am cumulative.” Wallace Stegner “I am still every age that I have been. Because I was once a child, I am always a child.”…

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Why We Get Angry In A Crisis

Outrage is all the rage these days. From a pandemic to politics to everything getting cancelled to nothing being in stock, we’ve all witnessed our fair share of anger in the public milieu. We the people have got some anger…

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Its About to Happen

“This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. Its adventurously expectant, greeting God with a child-like, ‘What’s next papa?’” Romans 8:15 MSG Adventure is not what I had in mind when I left my front…

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When Will We Feel This?

I once heard a story about a woman who was turning left on a two lane country road when another driver came roaring up behind her, smashing into her minivan at full clip. The cars careened around the road like…

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What To Do With All These Numbers and Faces

Here we all sit hunkered down in our house bunkers. We seem to have two things in abundance these days. There are numbers. Lots of numbers. There are big growing numbers like coronavirus infection rates and unemployment filings and days…

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Keeping Heart in a Pandemic

Where do we go for peace? Where do we go to get our bearings again? So much of what we’ve leaned on, those givens in our lives, are cascading around us like a tossed deck of cards. The COVID-19 pandemic…

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How To Be Grateful and Still Want More

“Give thanks in all circumstances.” Paul (1 Thess. 5) “You’re blessed when you are ravenously hungry.” Jesus (Luke 6) Gratitude is getting a fresh make over these days. What could be mistaken for a Sunday School lesson theme from a…

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You Need More Than God

Picture it with me. A man walks along a mountain path amidst towering aspens and pines. The tree cover here dances shadows around his feet. His pace is easy because he’s really not trying to get anywhere. He closes his…

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Your Other Christmas List

“It would seem that our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to…

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How To Get Your Innocence Back

This post originally appears on And Sons magazine’s website. You can read it here. Be sure to stick around there and check out the rest of their offerings. They have a good thing going. — Trail running has become my…

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