“Things are not all so comprehensible and utterable as people would mostly have us believe; most events are unutterable, consummating themselves in a sphere where word has never trod.” Rilke “If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our [...]
Why Men Masturbate
May 6, 2012 By 22 Comments
“Masturbation is an attempt to make ritual contact with the penis… to connect with the lost maleness.” Joseph Nicolosi “Notice that the struggle with pornography or masturbation is most difficult when you are lonely, beat up, or longing for comfort in some way. This will become more intense the closer you get to your father [...]
How Do You Make Others Feel?
April 23, 2012 By 6 Comments
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou “We actually respond to one another’s energy more than to people’s exact words or actions. In any situation, your taking or giving of energy is what you are [...]
Masculinity Is Not Bestowed
April 11, 2012 By 11 Comments
“Son’s don’t want their father’s ‘balls’; they want their hearts.” Terrance Real At 18 weeks pregnant, Amanda and I sat in the doctor’s office, hardly handling the hope that this might be the week we find out the gender of our little one. “Oh, let’s go look!” exclaimed our doctor like a good friend who [...]
Being Lonely Does Make You Weak
March 26, 2012 By Leave a Comment
“No man is an island entire of itself; every man, is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.” John Donne “Isolation is inherently traumatizing.” Sue Johnson “Loneliness doth make cowards of us all.” John Bowlby Among the many torture techniques used in prisoner of war camps, extreme isolation may be the worst. That’s [...]
When Sex Is Just A Drug
March 6, 2012 By Leave a Comment
“Those who come together in the night time and entwine in swaying delight perform a serious work and gather up sweetness, depth, and strength for the song of some poet that is to be, who will rise to speak of unspeakable bliss.” Rilke “High on love darling we don’t need to take drugs. Put away [...]
Lust, Part 3: How To Lust Well
February 22, 2012 By 7 Comments
“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”Tom Robbins “Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought [...]
Learning to Love Yourself
February 7, 2012 By 7 Comments
“The act of self acceptance is the root of all things. I must agree to be the person who I am. Agree to have the qualifications which I have. Agree to live the with the limitations set for me. The clarity and the courageousness of this acceptance is the foundation of all existence.” Romano Guardini [...]
Stop Kicking Your Own Ass
January 23, 2012 By 9 Comments
“Why hast thou smitten thine ass?” Numbers 22:32 Call this weird, but I like to do a warm up routine before my counseling sessions. Yes, I know I don’t really need to do it to sit in a chair all day. But none the less, I do it if only to feel like I’m ready [...]
Resolute
January 6, 2012 By Leave a Comment
“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” Mary Oliver “Every entity persists in its state of being – at rest or moving uniformly straight forward – except insofar as it is compelled to change its state by force impressed.” Newton First Law of Mechanics I was [...]
